Worry who needs that!!

Wow, my daughter got my gene to worry. I have to keep bringing her back to present every other day. Lets get through today first. It's good to plan ahead and you're only five years old and when you're 10 years old we'll deal with being 10 years old then. I know it's exciting to be in the second grade and that's cool and all but lets deal with everything now in Kindergarten first. Yes, on your next birthday you will be six years old but lets get through Halloween, Thanksgiving and Christmas first and then we can plan your birthday. I don't know who will be coming to your party and it may snow on your birthday but lets deal with that then when the time comes. So many talks and so much comfort and sleepless nights.

I think my child will burn out before she turns 7 years old with all the possibilities of her life. I don't want to say it's silly because I'm kinda concerned for her. She worries all the time and some of the stuff she comes up with I'm like oh, sweetie I feel your pain. It breaks my heart at times when she gets herself so upset over things. I understand worry because as a mother I worry all the time.

So I started doing a Calendar with my daughter and only do one month ahead. We write weekly of all the things we are doing for the week ahead. It has worked somewhat on keeping her from future worries. I'm trying to get her more excited then scared. It has eased her a little and she's not asking of things much and more excited of what's ahead in the week then when she's 10 years old or what's going to happen when she's in second grade. I told her it's okay to think ahead sometimes but life changes so when the time comes to ride the bus to school after the winter holidays we'll deal with the excitement then. I want to rein in her worry so it's a healthier experience for her.

I think the future scares her and she's like me in a way she has to know. She has to know of her control with no surprises. She wants to prepare so she's ready. All I can do is comfort her and not dismiss her feelings. Giving her other options seems to help her with her worry. She's just a beautiful soul and I feel bad she's going through this. I hope I'm making her feel important!!! Take care, Peace!!