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October 3, 2008
Misguided and Misinformed!
I guess my point of view is thinking on the common sense side of the road. Is that good for me?, yes and if that makes me misguided on the issues and I'm misinformed on my beliefs that's my business. I think I'm quite capable to make good decisions what's best for me and my family. Everyone has free will and to think for themselves and that's what's great of being human. I never liked the idea of thinking we are entitled to have things. Working hard and fighting for what we have is the way to go in my book. I will teach my children if they want something in life it's not going to be given to them and if they want something they better work hard to get it. The same with the Government is running this Country. They feel like its all about them and their wants and will do anything they can to steal hard working tax payers money to fund their own agenda then working for the American people.
I will use Abortion for example. I know a lot of people have strong beliefs about this subject on both sides and that's why I am using it for my example. I had an Abortion back in 1998 due to a rape and I was able to make the decision what was best for me at the time. I am for pro-choice on the basis of pro-life. Doesn't make sense to you but I will explain why I say that.
People will believe I am a murder for having an Abortion. I believe I am a murder of an Innocent baby who didn't have a chance for a life because the difficult choice I made. I will have to live with the decision for the rest of my life. It's not like I had the abortion and everything is okay and done with. The emotions always stay with you. I try not to let it get to me because I don't want to have this one moment in my life to consume me. I don't define myself on one decision I made. I don't believe in abortions. Even thought I had one doesn't mean I condone abortions and agree abortions are right.
I believe in pro-life and the moment a fetus is growing inside a woman in my opinion is when life begins. I also am glad of pro-choice. I think every women should decide for themselves the decisions concerning their own bodies. Before I signed the papers to give consent for the abortion procedure I did talk to a counselor and weighed my opinions and understood the decision I made. I was grateful I had this option and it should be a standard practice with all abortions. I didn't make this decision lightly. I know you are wondering why I just didn't go through with the pregnancy with all the options out their like adoption or even keeping the baby. I thought about every angle and every consequence with each situation. I thought about adoption even keeping the baby and every thing in between.
For me, it was bad enough I was violated violently by the hands of a sick twisted man and then I found out I got pregnant because of this violence. It wasn't my choice to get pregnant but it happened. I weighted about giving this baby up for adoption but I couldn't guarantee this child would have people who would do what was best for my child. I don't even think I could even give up my baby to strangers. That was another reason I had to think about making the choice to do something like this. I had to think about my future raising a child as a single mother. I know people do this all the time. I personally know at the time I couldn't be a single mother being so young. I wasn't ready to take the responsibility to raise a baby on my own. I didn't want the long wait of 38 weeks reminded every day of being raped. It was selfish of me not to go through the torture of waiting 9 months until the baby was born. I didn't want to have to be reminded every day of how I became pregnant. I personally needed to move forward with my life. My decision was based on my emotional state if I could even go along with the pregnancy. My life at the time I needed to make a quick decision and get over the trauma and move forward with my life. I also thought about the consequences of aborting the baby. I had to look deep within myself in doing something I was strongly against. I thought about everything that goes on in your mind when you are put into a situation like this. In the end, I decided what I could live with and will give me the least amount of emotional stress. Even today while I am writing this I am a little sad. It's a sad situation I wish I was never put in and had to make a choice like abortion. I can't go back and change what happened but I also forgave myself and allowed myself to heal from this part of my emotional pain.
I don't shun people who have abortions neither but with any other major laws we need to set in place stricter guidelines. I don't think using abortion as a form of birth control is fair. I don't believe in late trimester abortions but in my case being raped gave me a choice which should also be thought about. When is abortion the right decision? It needs to be thought about from all angles and make sure we meet in the middle what is best for everyone to live with. I think there is all exceptions to every rule but it needs to be defined as such because allowing pro-choice a lot of women are abusing this law. I don't believe abortion should be a procedure women can have freely just because they can.
This is my story and my feelings about abortion. I want to be part of the solution and not part of the problem. The only way we can change is to talk about the real issues then accusing people their views are misguided and misinformed because the only way to be informed is to talk and so I am talking about abortion... how about you and what do you feel and believe about abortion?
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2 comments:
It was great! I don't really know what else to say, what you did was the best thing for you, and though I am pro-choice, I don't believe in the late term abortions either, that is murder. But you had a different set of circumstances than most. Even though I don't think I could have an abortion, under those circumstances, rape, I believe I would have done exactly the same thing, for exactly the same reasons.
Good for you for sharing with everyone, maybe talking about all this will get peoples head around the rights and wrongs of this, like you said using abortion as a form of birth control, or because it might be a little inconvient, or because at 7 months you have a change of heart, just get rid of it. If a man kills a women who is pregnant during any trimester, he is charged with two murders, but a women can abort at 7 or 8 months and it is just fine with our lawmakers.
Great job, I love you
Darlene,
You are a brave girl and I know that the Lord forgave you the moment you asked fot forgiveness! I, too, am pro-choice but it's not my role or place in life to ever judge someone for their decisions. Only God understands the individual circumstances and He is a very gracious God! I belive you will one day be re-united with your baby and there will be no saddness, only joy and peace!
--robyn
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